Rebels of love

Rebels of love

There is a new generation of Indians that struggles in the name of love. They risk their lives in order to fulfill their dream of marrying the person they want. They run away from their families who, due to the social context, condemn their choices and try to hurt or kill them. They break with the traditional system of values and create a new order. They fight against the caste - still present in India even though Gandhi declared it illegal - and a strict religious system, overcoming these formidable obstacles and following their hearts instead. There are no certain numbers concerning the size of this group because the government, considering them a danger rather than a resource, doesn't have an interest in supporting them. This movement is particularly strong in some areas of northern India, in places such as Delhi, Rajasthan, Haryana and Uttar Pradesh, where the consequences of globalization and Indian economic development crash against the medieval structures of the society. The struggles of these people are hard: many of them are caught after their escape. Women are imprisoned in rooms where they are bitten and tortured by male family members (father, brothers, uncles, cousins) and forced to stay without food and water. They are coerced into marrying men they don't love. If they refuse they are killed in a horrific way. The rage of the female’s families are also passed on to their lovers. If they are taken they are murdered. The only protection for these “rebels of love” is in shelters which are developing in Delhi and Haryana, such as the Love Commandos (a group that offers protection to couples who face threats), or in government refuges.

by contributor Zoe Vincenti

There is a new generation of Indians that struggles in the name of love. They risk their lives in order to fulfill their dream of marrying the person they want. They run away from their families who, due to the social context, condemn their choices and try to hurt or kill them. They break with the traditional system of values and create a new order. They fight against the caste - still present in India even though Gandhi declared it illegal - and a strict religious system, overcoming these formidable obstacles and following their hearts instead. There are no certain numbers concerning the size of this group because the government, considering them a danger rather than a resource, doesn't have an interest in supporting them. This movement is particularly strong in some areas of northern India, in places such as Delhi, Rajasthan, Haryana and Uttar Pradesh, where the consequences of globalization and Indian economic development crash against the medieval structures of the society. The struggles of these people are hard: many of them are caught after their escape. Women are imprisoned in rooms where they are bitten and tortured by male family members (father, brothers, uncles, cousins) and forced to stay without food and water. They are coerced into marrying men they don't love. If they refuse they are killed in a horrific way. The rage of the female’s families are also passed on to their lovers. If they are taken they are murdered. The only protection for these “rebels of love” is in shelters which are developing in Delhi and Haryana, such as the Love Commandos (a group that offers protection to couples who face threats), or in government refuges.

Delhi, 2012. Streets around Love Commando's Shelter. Delhi, 2012. From the open-room of Love Commando's shelter. Delhi,2012. Noorin, Rahul's wife. Noorin and Rahul are from Uttar Pradesh. She is from a very strict Muslim family. She met Rahul when she was working in his same company. They fell in love but her family discovered her. She was imprisoned and lost her job. Delhi,2012. Lekha and Hetal (21, from Uttar Pradesh) in the shelter. They are from very rich families that are opposing to their relashionship. Delhi,2012. Noorin (Muslim) and Anhuba ( Hindu ) are praying together into the shelter. Delhi,2012.Pooja (19) and Kapil (21) are from Uttar Pradesh. Since they are from the same clan (gotra), they were not allowed to marry. When Pooja's family discovered her love affair she was imprisoned, forced to abort (she was 3 months pregnant) and sold to a 40-year-old man who wanted to marry her. The day after the wedding Pooja jumped from the balcony of the husband's house and reached Kapil in Delhi. She wounded her head, legs and arm. Delhi,2012. A view from the top of the city. Delhi, 2012. A lonely woman in the streets of Delhi. India stands as the fourth most dangerous country for women, trailing only behind Pakistan, Congo, and Afghanistan. Over 100 million women and girls are estimated to be involved in human trafficking, and 50 million girls are said to have gone “missing” throughout the past century due to female infanticide and feticide. Delhi, 2012. Every day Love commandos receives one hundred help requests but they don't have the capacity to accept everyone. Moreover they don't offer help for free: they ask money to these couples in order to provide food and legal assistance. Delhi, 2012.There is a new generation of Indians that struggles in the name of love. They risk their lives in order to fulfill their dream of marrying the person they want. They run away from their families who, due to the social context, condemn their choices and try to hurt or kill them. They break with the traditional system of values and create a new order.I've called them Rebels of Love. Delhi, 2012. Suhail (26) and Apoorva (20) are from Uttar Pradesh. Suhail is Muslim and he felt in love with Apoorva who is Hindu. They are also from different castes. She is from a very wealthy family that condemned their relationship; Suhail's parents also didn't approve of their marriage. Despite everything, they decided to marry and escape from their villages to find refuge with Love Commandos. Now they are leaving the shelter for their new life. Bulandshahr, Uttar Pradesh, 2012. Abdul Hakim was shot in November 2012 when he was 28. His fault was to marry the woman he loved, Mehwish, against the wishes of her family. Mehwish's family killed him two years after their wedding. He left two daughters. Every day there are many people that die like him in India. There are no exact numbers; according to some estimates there are one thousand deaths every year. But for some organizations, there are 10 times more. Bulandshahr, Uttar Pradesh, 2012. Mehwish (26) is informed of her husband’s death by a cousin. She is 9 months pregnant and she already has a 1 year and half old daughter. She married against the willing of her family. She is desperate. After being threatened by the her family, they went to live in a shelter in Delhi, run by a group called Love Commandos who offer protection to couples who face threats.
Rothak, Haryana, 2012. India is the second most populous country, which has about 16% of the world population and 25% of the land area. Rapid industrialization last few decades have led to the depletion of pollution of precious natural resources inIndia depletes and pollutes resources continuously. Hisar, Haryana, 2012. A governmental shelter in Hisar, a village in haryana. Rothak, Haryana, 2012. A couple in the governmental shelter in Rothak. Ashoke,30 is Jat and Rity, 21, is Jimen: two different casts. They are here because their families don't accept their relashionship. They married some days before. Rothak, Haryana, 2012. A Governmental Shelter in Rothak. Rohtak, Haryana, 2012. Jagmati Sangwan, president of AIDWA (All India Democratic Women's Association) and some activists are meeting women in the Haryana villages.
Rothak, Haryana, 2012. Manoj and Mukesh the day after wedding, two years ago. Rothak, Haryana, 2012. Haryana, a northern Indian state with historical significance where the epic battle of Mahabharata was fought at Kurukshetra; and one of the wealthiest states of the country with the third highest per capita income, could have emerged as a role model of development for other states. But ironically, with at least nineteen rape cases – most of them involving teenage girls – being reported in just over a month this year, 367 in the first six months of 2012. 
New Delhi, 2012. Banquet hall in the temple. Preparing for a traditional wedding.
Delhi, 2012.The number of love marriages is increasing in India. They represent around 25% of all marriages. 
Delhi,2012. A portrait of the city; in one of the several parks of Delhi, where couples are in the habit of taking refuge to find a bit of intimacy. In the rest of the city it is strictly forbidden to exchange even simple displays of affection in public.
Delhi, 2012. Traditionally couples, after the wedding, return to live with the groom's family. Delhi, 2012. Young Indian couple escaped from their families after getting married.